Platonic Relationships
Do they really exist?
A discussion that I have had on several occasions. The answer is still unclear. Some say it is possible, others say it is not. Many say its situational. At the end of the day I don't think there is a person out there who has not had a friend that they wished could be more. But does this mean that this is the case in ALL situations? Maybe, maybe not.
They say the best relationships start off as friendships.While I believe this to be true, does every friendship have to develop into a relationship? Studies show that the majority of cross-sex friendships develop after failed romantic pursuit. With that said, how can people truly be 'just friends' if at one point at least one person wanted it to be a relationship. In my opinion, I feel like the status of each friendship is very situtional.
Having a wide range of male friends, each one is different. I have some that I never liked, and I feel have never liked me (to my knowledge at least). I have a few that I have liked in the past. Some of the feelings I grew of, some of them are still there. And I have some thut oat I have never liked but I know have liked me. It really does depend on how the friendship started and how each other feels about one another.
Theres is something I wonder. We are quick to label people as best friends, brothers, sisters, etc. But if you think about it, are we lying to ourselves with these titles? Is it really possible to spend so much time with someone of the opposite sex that you have much in common with and not feel a type of way about them? Do we use this to hide the hinge of jealousy we feel when we see them with someone else?
Just remember three things, you can't be friends if: you are physically attracted to them, you are romatically interested in them, or they can make you jealous by anything they do.
Having a wide range of male friends, each one is different. I have some that I never liked, and I feel have never liked me (to my knowledge at least). I have a few that I have liked in the past. Some of the feelings I grew of, some of them are still there. And I have some thut oat I have never liked but I know have liked me. It really does depend on how the friendship started and how each other feels about one another.
Theres is something I wonder. We are quick to label people as best friends, brothers, sisters, etc. But if you think about it, are we lying to ourselves with these titles? Is it really possible to spend so much time with someone of the opposite sex that you have much in common with and not feel a type of way about them? Do we use this to hide the hinge of jealousy we feel when we see them with someone else?
Just remember three things, you can't be friends if: you are physically attracted to them, you are romatically interested in them, or they can make you jealous by anything they do.
Call me crazy but I don't believe that two people of the opposite sex can be friends without there being some type of attraction or romantic feelings existing between them. Either feelings were there in the past or feelings may start to develop
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