Unrequited Love

Every have that one person that caught eye, then captured your heart? That one who makes your heart flutter and blood run hot? Have you ever felt like you found the one you been looking for? Have you ever been in love? Have you ever been in love with someone who did not feel the same? There you have, unrequited love.

Unrequited love or one-sided love is love that is not openly reciprocated or understood as such. The beloved may or may not be aware of the admirer's deep and strong romantic affections.

To be in this situation is one of great strife and heartache. How does one stay in a situation knowing that all that you feel is only what you feel.

This situation can occur in two ways: the other person has no idea, or they do but do not feel the same.  Either way it up to the person to go in and evaluate the situation and do what is best for themselves. If you see that the situation is causing internal heartache, its best to separate yourself from the situation.

Trust Issues

What is Trust? According to Webster, trust is an assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something. With that said, is it possible to hold a strong relationship with someone when you are not sure on their character or word?

Any relationship, whether it be amicable, business, love or etc. should be based off trust. Its a foundation for which gives any relationship to grow, to prosper, and to develop into something real. How can you have something real if you do not even believe that the someone you are trying to build it with is real? Or, are they real but you can not come to the belief that they are real?

Trust issues really cause a weakness in a relationship. It can really tear apart what two people have potential to have. Many trust issues come from past relationships. Past betrayals in friendships, romantic relationships, or business relationships can truly hinder how a person sees everyone. They say that the worst part about betrayal is that it never comes from an enemy. When such situations happen, people like to shut everyone out for fear of being hurt, or repetition of a past situation.  

My take on trust issues, while everyone has their reservations about opening up and trusting people, one should always start off on a clean slate. Give someone a chance instead of always dismissing people. You could be missing out on your blessing!

Are Titles Necessary?

What defines a relationship? The title or the people within it? Because people fail to consider this question is where the battle truly comes from. Thats what a title does right? Define a relationship? So why are so many people afraid to come out and define the relationships for which they are in? My answer: Responsibility. With a title, comes the responsibility for which that title possess.

The generation we live in have become so complacent and at ease with just going with the flow. They
feel the same for relationships they are. "It is what it is", "We don't need to define this", "Titles messes things up" are all phrases used to counteract a partner's need for a definition of what the two posses between themselves. And why is this? I simply feel it is because people are simply afraid of the responsibility of possessing a title. Honestly, it is not even the title that ruin things. The expectations people have once a title is placed is what causes the issues.

So....whats the person of a title anyway? One word: Security. People, me included, like to know what they are getting into, what they need to expect, and how to react to certain situations. If we're just friends, we're just friends. But if we are involved, we are not just friends. We're not "just cool" or "just hanging out." Inviting the term "boyfriend/girlfriend, wife/husband, etc." comes with being seclusive, commitment, and security.

If things have evolved to a certain level and a partner is convinced that its time to define things, and the other should not, what to do here? Honestly, the answer to the necessity of titles belongs to the people who decide to engage in a relationship. If the two are both happy, then that is on them. Most
times the requirement of a title comes from trying to prove something to society and the people around us. At the end of the day, do whats comfortable for YOU. Look at Oprah, she's been with her mate Stedman for over 20 years and have proclaimed she will never be married. Her mate Stedman is okay with it, and their happy. Isn't that all that matters?

To each its own. 

[It may not be titles that causes the issues in relationships] It’s the change that occurs in individuals because of their perspective on what the title means that causes issues”
Read more at http://necolebitchie.com/2009/09/18/do-titles-screw-up-a-relationship/#L7cTFxEuAJhLbpM4.99

It may not be titles that causes the issues in relationships] It’s the change that occurs in individuals because of their perspective on what the title means that causes issues
Read more at http://necolebitchie.com/2009/09/18/do-titles-screw-up-a-relationship/#L7cTFxEuAJhLbpM4.99

It may not be titles that causes the issues in relationships] It’s the change that occurs in individuals because of their perspective on what the title means that causes issues
Read more at http://necolebitchie.com/2009/09/18/do-titles-screw-up-a-relationship/#L7cTFxEuAJhLbpM4.99

It may not be titles that causes the issues in relationships] It’s the change that occurs in individuals because of their perspective on what the title means that causes issues
Read more at http://necolebitchie.com/2009/09/18/do-titles-screw-up-a-relationship/#L7cTFxEuAJhLbpM4.99

It may not be titles that causes the issues in relationships] It’s the change that occurs in individuals because of their perspective on what the title means that causes issues
Read more at http://necolebitchie.com/2009/09/18/do-titles-screw-up-a-relationship/#L7cTFxEuAJhLbpM4.99

It may not be titles that causes the issues in relationships] It’s the change that occurs in individuals because of their perspective on what the title means that causes issues
Read more at http://necolebitchie.com/2009/09/18/do-titles-screw-up-a-relationship/#L7cTFxEuAJhLbpM4.99

It may not be titles that causes the issues in relationships] It’s the change that occurs in individuals because of their perspective on what the title means that causes issues
Read more at http://necolebitchie.com/2009/09/18/do-titles-screw-up-a-relationship/#L7cTFxEuAJhLbpM4.99

Social Media within Relationships

Social Media is gradually invading people's lives. It has taken the way we communicate with each to new heights and new lows. It has especially had an impact on how we come together in the real world. Because social media is so fast and instant, people often take the easy road out when communicating. It is also such easy access into people's lives. This creates problems in everyday life and especially in romantic relationships.

You are tweeting or posting random thoughts on the web and suddenly, your ex responds to it. Not thinking about it, you reply back. Suddenly you find yourself engaged in a full, public conversation for everyone to see. Your current significant other sees it and is infuriated. What do you do? How do you explain? This is only an example of one of the many problems that can occur.  Social media fuels jealousy simply because things can become misconstrued over the web. A like on Instagram. A Retweet on Twitter. A Post on the Facebook Wall. All these open forms of communication heightens insecurities that may already lie within the relationship.

People also let so much of their live be publicized on social media, that there's no privacy left. And for the ones that choose not to post every little thing, their significant other has doubts on the seriousness of their relationship. Discretion is looked at as being secretive or sneaky. "Why wont you update your relationship status?" "Why don't you want to post a picture of us?" These are things that get asked when one chooses not to show the world wide web about their life.

Social media can cause much harm to a relationship depending on the people participating. It is really up to the people to be mature adults when involving social media in their relationships. It takes trust, responsibility and compromise to really look past all the woes social media can bring to the table.