He Say, She Say, What do WE say?

Gossip. We've all done it, experienced it, and have been affected by it. My junior year of high school I even did a documentary on it. It really takes a toll on relationships and the people in it. Friendships and romantic relationships already has trials within the two people, add the hearsay of others and that is when things get really complicated.

It can be really trying to maintain a personal relationship when outsiders have so many things to say about it. And when you hear things, do you jump to conclusions or try to work things out? It really depends on the subject and severity of the gossip that one hears that determines the reaction. Did your friends tell you they saw your significant other with someone else? Was this someone else a person you know you do not want them around? Or did you hear that your friend is talking about you behind your back? Was information spread something you know you only told them?

People will always talk. None of us can help it. It happens. Things come up, and sometimes things slip. At the time you say things, most of the time it doesn't seem that bad. Run it thru the rumor mill several times and it gets ugly. Always remember to *woosahh* and take it to the person. If it is someone you trust, you shouldn't let talk of others get in the way of it. Address the situation calm and collected and make sure you get facts right before jumping to conclusions. And do this as soon as possible. The longer you let things fester, the longer you feel some type of way about it.

So many friendships and relationships are ruined by gossip. If it means anything to you, do what you need to to solve the problem.