The EX-Effect

If you have every been in a relationship, then you have an ex. Until you have only been in one and
you guys are still together of course. How much the ex-factor can affect your life is depending on the details of the relationship. How long were you two together? How did you two split up? Was it an amicable break or not?

Recently I was watching a show called "The X-Effect" in which a show puts individuals who were exs on a date. At the end, they have to choose between their ex and their current bf/gf. It really interests me to see what happens at the end. What I want to know is, why do people go back to their ex? Do they feel like things have changed? Or the person changed? Or is it they want to see what may have happened if they never gave up on it.

I have been in the position to rekindle an old flame. But in retrospect I realized that whats done is done and there is no need to try and revisit past mistakes. I feel like mistakes are meant to be learned from, not repeated. It is just my thoughts, I have friends that go back to their exs all the times. And things just repeat. This is just what I do not understand.

Birds of a Feather Flock Together, but Opposites Attract

They say that opposites attract. They also say that birds of a feather flock together. When broken down in terms of what they mean, you get a bit of more understanding of what they both mean. They both are related to relationships between the people and why they connect, but they deal with different type of relationships.

When you hear "Bird of a feather flock together", you think about friendships. They say people of a
similar nature who share a similar personality will always find each other. This idiom has some truth behind it. People do choose friends based on traits that they mutually share. But the one thing to wonder is, can you really base how a person is by the company they keep. Can a person be completely different than their friends but yet still enjoy their company? It can and does happen. Just because someone has a friend with foolish tendencies, does not mean they will too. 

When they saw opposites attract, they most likely are referring to a romantic relationship. People say
that people of different qualities attract someone that is opposite of them. The idiom is a reflection of two magnets. Poles of the opposite field attract each other. The positive attracts the negative and vice versus. This is used to show how and why odd couple are created. How people of two different backgrounds, etc. can come together and form one couple.

Each phrase holds some truth. And each one holds its falsities. It is also seen how they relate and how they are used opposingly. It all depends how the person is using the phrase.